It is not ‘innocence’, it is ‘stupidity’ !

Have you ever come across people who pretend that they do not know or do not understand certain things because knowing these things makes one ‘bold’ (whatever that means) ?

You might have, at some point of your life, especially if you live in a society where sex is a taboo. I have had this glorious opportunity, more than once.

I do not understand why people, especially young women, think that not understanding what a vagina or a penis or sex is, makes them look ‘innocent’.

Well, my sincere apologies for sounding rude, but your ‘innocence’ is cringe-worthy and irritating.

And, I am not exaggerating any of it. A couple of days back, a friend called me up to ‘know’ what these things are. She’s 21 and she’s a law student. She was studying the rape laws and the words ‘vagina’, ‘penis’, ‘urethra’, ‘sexual intercourse’ etc. were bothering her because these are ‘bad words’ and she didn’t know what these were because she did not have biology in school.
Yeah, right. I don’t know what continents and oceans are because I didn’t have geography in school.

Ladies, you’d have my sympathies (and others’ too, I assume) if you were 10 but since you are not, kindly behave like it and show some mercy on our facial muscles. They really don’t like to frown. And frankly, playing dumb just doesn’t look cute!
(No offense but this was for the lovely ladies that do this. The ones that know themselves that they do this.)

I am not denying that there are genuine women who actually do not understand such things. Of course there are, and they need to make themselves aware of such basic things. But I am not talking about them here.

I think a lot of this comes from the patriarchal society we live in, that teaches women to remain chaste and labels any women who defies the norms, as a ‘bad woman’.
Women need to understand that they are the ones in control of their own sexuality and there is nothing ‘wrong’ or ‘bad’ about wanting to be open about it.

Please share these things with them if you know any ‘dumbsels’ in distress. They’ll find you blunt and rude but they’ll eventually grow up and understand that you were right. Plus, you can save yourselves from watching them overact.

– Deepti Nair

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29 thoughts on “It is not ‘innocence’, it is ‘stupidity’ !

  1. Oh well haha I laughed first and then I realized it’s serious stuff…..
    But then I laughed all the same…
    It’s actually, cringe worthy. Not only ladies but some men too act “innocent”. Talk about masturbation you are the most vulgar guy in the room……
    What isn’t tabbooed in the indian society??
    Your sense of humor is so like me…….
    And I am ecstatic to have found your blog

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  2. Well written and love the boldness with which your expressed your thoughts on this issue. You are right, it’s high time that we stop making this a taboo! And not fear being judged or criticised to say “Vagina.”

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  3. I am totally with you on this and though the society “believes” women to be all cultural and to follow patriarchy, it is high time we spoke about the important things more openly than before.

    Well Written. 🙂
    Oh, and I saw some comments above with the word “bold”. Though you were talking about the basic stuff however ‘taboo’ it is in our society, but people are considering it bold. I am not denying that you aren’t bold or otherwise. But I feel this is normal stuff and probably they should rather preach the same to be more open with themselves and with the people they are close to.

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      • When we say “It’s a long way to go”, we are practically giving the baton to someone else to carry, like we are waiting for the others to catch up and be more open.

        I guess what need to do is talk more often about it and let others do the same, and in the process we might be able to make more people more open and discuss without any hesitation, or societal pressures (to be religious / chaste / or likewise whichever is stopping us from).

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  4. I totally agree! I’m a law student and when we were being taught rape laws our teacher refused to say the words “penis” and “vagina”. It was a glaring reminder of how we have been conditioned to think that everything related to sex is taboo.

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